Why do people have kids?

I have come to the conclusion that most people have kids because they are bored to death. Bored with their partners, bored with their lives, bored with themselves.

After a period of too little writing, too much working (or 2nd job-searching), too many family duties, too little time and too little energy, I also have to say Hello all! and it was f***ing time I wrote. And it´s just that the essential questions in life come to my mind every now and then. I have been thinking about this article for a while now, and it´s time I protested: Why exactly do people have kids?

Am I the only one who has heard the eternal answer: "after a while, we just felt there was something missing in the house"? Hello? something missing in the house? darling, you might need some change of scenery, hire an interior designer, buy new courtains, consider the root of your boredom, but definitely, don´t create a human being to witness all of that and swallow the consequences just because your life is incomplete! And pardon me, but I think, and I´ll always defend that before you even think about having a child, you Must be fine with yourself. You must be happy, you must have an alternative if things go wrong.

Or this one: "Well, after a hard day at work, they just charge my batteries". Yeah, right, that´s because you´ve been all day at work, because if you were spending all day with them, most probably they would suck all your energy. Yes, they might charge your batteries, but they already emptied them before, so in the end minus 1 plus 1 equals 0. You might as well not have kids. Have some sleep if you need your batteries charged..

But the funniest one I heard was: "I know this couple who got married and they claim they´re not ready to have kids just yet; well I think this couple have a problem". Oh Yeah? they have a problem because they need to spend time together, travel, have careers, get to know themselves, go out often, all this before they think about having kids? because they don´t think it´s necessary to follow the unwritten rules that say that no kids equals unhealthy relationship? because perhaps they are ok with spending time together, with doing things, all sorts of things but That? not sure I understand. Our bodies might be created the way they are, but don´t we have minds anymore to decide what´s best for them? are we not in the 21st century for this too?

One thing I know about having kids (not much more to be frank) is that you are automatically overshadowed for the rest of your life. And coming back to what I said earlier, why can´t we sort out our lives before giving out the best in us willingly, letting everybody to ignore that? Is there an age for personal or professional fulfillment? no! Well in my case it hasn´t actually happened! why then is there an age for child bearing?

A few points to make: isn´t the world unsafe enough to bring someone new to see it/suffer it? and, what happens when the child is a teenager? (I mean, do you Really fancy going though that?!) and what when they turn out to be the opposite from what you expected? let me explain, what if they´re the laziest thing on earth and they never leave your house, that house that cost you so much effort to buy? what if they´re the cruelest thing on earth and they make you suffer for days on end? what if they happen to marry the worst thing on earth and you don´t have more choice than to put up with it the best way you can?

What a lottery my friend, as if the world wasn´t hazardous enough. Do what you like doing, spend your time doing it, get a good job, a fabulous person by your side, and the best friends to have around, and I think that should do.

One last thing. Having kids is like taking drugs: not only suffered by the person, but also by the people around. If you don´t agree, then tell me, why do people have kids if they can´t take care of them? why do you take for granted that grandpa and grandma are more than happy to pick them up, collect them from school, spend full days with them..have they not worked more than enough for all their lives to not have a right to rest? what when an accident happens and something happens to the baby? we get old, we lose our reflexes, we have a right to spend our time watching TV or whatever, why do you give me such a delicate thing to complicate my days?

What I mean is, the person is the person, let´s not lose our identity, even I need loads of time just for myself, following social and historical rules I would be more than a lost case. Oh well, do i really care..

All I ask is, well, just think twice if you can.